fMelania Trump entered the House chamber
to a standing ovation Tuesday night ahead of President Donald Trump’s first State of the Union address.
The rousing applause punctuated an unexpected drama that played out on the sidelines of the president’s speech. The first lady traveled from the White House to the Capitol without her husband, a break with tradition,
CNN reported. Melania instead commuted
with the special guests she and the president had invited to the event, according to the first lady’s spokesperson.
The decision to ride separately probably wouldn’t have created ripples had it not been for the fact that Melania
has avoided public appearances with her husband
since a January 12 Wall Street Journal report. The report alleged Trump’s private attorney, Michael Cohen,
had paid $130,000 in hush money to adult film star Stormy Daniels during the 2016 campaign — an effort to keep her quiet about an alleged sexual encounter between then-businessman Trump and Daniels.
Daniels
has said the affair took place less than four months after Melania gave birth to the couple’s son Barron. (She has since
denied, sort of, the encounter with Donald; the White House has also denied the Journal’s story.)
White House press secretary Sarah Huckabee Sanders downplayed the Trumps’ State of the Union travel arrangements,
saying Melania traveled separately for “no reason other than she can greet the guests and he can go straight in.”
But Melania’s recent decision to cancel her trip to Davos, Switzerland, fed into the intrigue. What’s more, Melania, an immigrant and former model model, has always been a source of fascination — as has her marriage to the much older Trump. (His third.)
Melania isn’t the first woman in the White House to deal with questions of her husband’s infidelity while in office. For an intensely private first lady who’s
been portrayed as a captive, it’s hard not to notice her quiet distance from the president of late.
#Free Melania and the fascination with the First Lady
Talk about Melania Trump, at least in liberal circles, often comes back to the same question: What does she think about all this? What does a woman with a somewhat
murky immigration historythink about her husband’s anti-immigrant rhetoric and policies? What does Trump’s wife think about the multiple allegations that her husband sexually harassed and assaulted women, incidents that reportedly occurred during their marriage?
Melania was 28 when she met Trump, then 52 (and with a date), at a Fashion Week party at the Kit Kat Club in Times Square in the fall of 1998. “I didn’t know much about Donald Trump,” Melania Trump
told GQ in April 2016. “I had my life, I had my world. I didn’t follow Donald Trump and what kind of life he had.”
The couple wed
in 2005 and celebrated with a Mar-a-Lago reception. They had their only son Barron, about a year later, in 2006.
During Trump’s candidacy, Melania, now 47, was
an infrequent presence on the campaign trail. One of her first high-profile political appearances came at the Republican National Convention in July 2016. Her speech sparked a scandal, after people noted that portions of the speech
seemed to have been cribbed directlyfrom former first lady Michelle Obama’s address during the 2008 Democratic National Convention.
Melania was thrust in the spotlight again toward the end of the campaign, after the infamous
Access Hollywood tape leaked. Melania defended Trump’s crass language, suggesting others had goaded her husband into
“boy talk.”
After Trump won, Melania decided to stay in New York rather than move immediately to the White House so that Barron could finish the school year without disruption. (They
moved to Washington in June.)
And by Trump’s inauguration, jokes that Melania was a hostage rather than a willing participant in her husband’s presidency began in earnest — especially after a viral clip seemed to show Melania smiling at Trump, a smile that completely disappeared as soon as Trump’s back was turned.
That fired up the “Save Melania” and “Free Melania” memes, including one in which Melania attempts to slip an SOS message into the Tiffany box she gave to Michelle Obama before the two couples headed to the inauguration ceremony. (Obama, incidentally, will confess Thursday on Ellen that
it was a picture frame.)
The #FreeMelania hashtag
also popped up on signs at the Women’s March. The campaign never quite died, either, fed by little moments and gaffes, such as when Melania swiped away Trump’s hand during their foreign trip. (Which
kept happening.)
The memes sparked a
debate: Was Melania a figure to be pitied? Or was she complicit in her husband’s positions and policies?
“Melania Trump is hardly a stand-in for American women, she is neither a victim nor is she lacking agency,” Stassa Edwards
wrote for Jezebel in January 2017. “Rather she’s an active participant working to construct Donald Trump’s narrative, readily available to put a gauzy domestic veil on his racism and misogyny.”
And until recently, there was little indication from Melania Trump’s public appearances that she’s anything but supportive of her husband.
Rumors about the Trump’s marriage have picked up steam
A few recent events have thrust the Trump’s marriage into the spotlight.
Reports that Melania had not wanted her husband to win — first made by
Vanity Fair in May 2017 — gained new life after Michael Wolff’s gossipy Trump White House tell-all.
His book,
Fire and Fury,
suggested that Melania had cried
“tears — and not of joy” after the Election Night results. (Grisham, the first lady’s communications director,
also denied the Wolff account, saying Melania encouraged Donald to run, and “was confident he would win and was very happy when he did.”)
Then, after the Stormy Daniels allegations broke, Melania traveled to Mar-a-Lago with the president over Martin Luther King Jr. weekend, but she
reportedlywasn’t seen at two dinners. Two people close to the Trumps
told the New York Times that the reported “payoff blindsided the first lady, who was furious with her husband.”
Melania also tweeted on the anniversary of her first year in office, and
some pointed out that of all the photos she could have chosen, her selection conspicuously did not include the president. (The Trumps’
13-year wedding anniversary also happened to be on January 22; there was no report on whether the couple celebrated together.)
Melania also
dropped her plans to accompany the president to the World Economic Forum in Davos, Switzerland. Instead, she made an impromptu trip
to the US Holocaust Memorial Museum in Washington, DC, ahead of Holocaust Remembrance Day, and then headed to Mar-a-Lago for the weekend. Grisham, the first lady’s spokeswoman, said her absence was due to “scheduling and logistical issues.”
Grisham shot down any rumors of turmoil. On Twitter last week she slammed “salacious & flat-out false reporting,” adding Melania’s focus was on her family “& role as FLOTUS.”
The State of the Union marked Melania’s public debut after weeks of speculation. Though the two traveled together for Trump’s first speech to a joint session of Congress last year, the White House dismissed the arrangements in 2018 as a matter of convenience — and a chance for the first lady to have more time with the attendees.
The first lady’s communications director Stephanie Grisham
told CNN that Melania and Karen Pence planned to host “a more intimate meet-and-greet” with those guests ahead of the State of the Union.
Why does this even matter?
The first lady is
a private woman. Trump hasn’t exactly been a paragon of, or an advocate for, marital fidelity. (The Access Hollywood tape began with the future president describing at length his efforts to sleep with a married woman.) So, on one level, it shouldn’t matter if the state of their marital union is somewhat less than strong.
Still, the intense interest in the rumored rift between the Trumps is understandable. Melania Trump, by dint of her husband’s electoral victory, is now one of the most famous women in America. She is
more popular than her husband, and her reserve and sometimes obvious dislike of the limelight has helped make her a sympathetic figure, even among Trump’s detractors.
Nor is she the first first lady to serve as a blank screen onto which Americans project a narrative. During the George W. Bush administration, some
liberal women desperately wanted to believethat Laura Bush shared their views. Author Curtis Sittenfeld spun her fantasy version of the first lady into a novel,
American Wife, about the ambivalent wife of a swaggering Texan politician.
It turned out that Laura Bush
really did support gay marriage and abortion, even if she didn’t say so when her opinion might have changed policy. And the idea that Melania Trump is a victim or innocent bystander in her husband’s presidency — #FreeMelania — has been, for many, an oddly comforting thought.
Melanie is now being cast again, this time in an old role — the woman scorned — in a stunning scandal.
Her husband faces the incredible allegation that he or his associates tried to silence a porn star with hush money to cover up an affair. That revelation would
likely sink any other political career. For Trump, the only thing at risk appears to be his marriage.